It does not work trying to do Phase 2 before you do Phase 1.
It would be like trying to go through a door before you are at the door.
It would be like trying to eat bread before you have planted and harvested the grain,
ground the flour, mixed the dough and baked the bread.
It would be like traying to take money out of the bank before you put any money in the bank.
The mind can imagine doing things that are crazy, but in reality it does not produce useful results.
There are different qualities of energy, attention, and behavior demanded by Phase 1 than are demanded in Phase 2. There is a lot to learn...
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Phase 1 & Phase 2 of Anger
On the evolutionary path, there is a Phase I and a Phase II of Everything, including of feelings work, and therefore of Anger work. There is a lot more to Anger than keeping your center, making boundaries, saying Yes or No, saying what you want, starting thing or being committed.
Phase 1 of Anger work is learning to Consciously feel anger and healing the blocks to expressing and using Anger:
From 0-100% pure intensity anger, what percentage it is, pure and not mixed, and unmix anger from other feelings, distinguish between conscious and unconscious anger, be centered, grounded, bubbled, say No, Yes, Stop, or what you want, make boundaries, decide, get your voice back, etc...
Phase 2 of anger is using your Anger for High Drama. For example:
1. Protect what is precious: Who are you a protector for? Not everybody is a protector. You are probably a protector. A protector for what? For whom? And what are you doing about it? 2. Let Gaia speak through you: Gaia is a raging force. You can make your job being Gaia’s mouthpiece. Your life does not need to belong to you anymore, you can give it Gaia. 3. Shift from boundary to distinction: Distinctions are more powerful than rules. Distinctions are more elegant than boundaries. Refine the quality of your energetic swordswomanship and create a new future for others. 4. Be arrogant: Learn to be arrogant about your qualities, your value, and what you are bringing 5. Create the gameworld that turns you on: When you are angry enough about not inhabiting the gameworld you wish to live in that you might consider the possibility and necessity for you that it is you who needs to build that gameworld. What are your next for you to build that gameworld? 6. Break the rules and do what makes you ecstatic: Everything is an offer. A rule is an offer. Walk to line between your childish tantrum and your true Pirateness. 7. The anger of your parts. Let your Gremlin’s anger speak. Let your Child Ego State’s anger speak. Let your Parent Ego State’s anger speak. Let your parents' anger speak through you. Let your Adult Ego State speak. Let your Archetypal Ego State speak. Notice the different experience 8. Nothing changes until you get angry enough: In emotional healing process or shift process, until you get angry enough about how you’ve kept things the same up to now, nothing will change. 9. Men are Angry about their Fear. Women are Afraid about their Anger. Leverage the polarity of the masculine and feminine for men and women to learn something from each other about their Anger and their Fear. 10. The Anger in Low Drama: discover the anger in the Persecutor, the Rescuer, and the Victim 11. The Fear behind the Anger: many emotional anger outbursts get born from deep emotional fears. Without addressing the fears, the anger cannot get transformed. 12. Use Your Anger To Live Your Destiny Moment to Moment: You cannot figure out your destiny in advance, the only thing that you can do is the next thing, even when you do not know what the next thing after that will be. It reveals itself in due time. 13. Put your Adult in the driving seat of your life: Make clear permanent boundaries with your Child Ego state, your Gremlin Ego State and your Parent Ego State. These are not loud boundaries, these a incisively clear boundaries. 14. When you apply your integrity to your clarity, what you get is discipline. Learn adult and archetypal discipline. 15. Who space is this? What is the purpose of the space? Do I agree or change the purpose? 16. What do people resist? Do you go along or do you resist? Do you go along with it or do you change something? Are you being adaptive or collaborative? 17. Going from ordinary to extraordinary takes force, takes fierceness, that’s Anger. 18. Write The Book. No explanation needed. 19. Getting things done but according to whom? Who are wanting these things to get done? Your parents, your school education, your thoughtware that “you only have value if you do something”? Are you getting things done so you can feel useful? Can you distinguish which part of you is wanting getting things done? Is it your Gremlin who loves the adrenaline of being on high on things to get done? If so, your Gremlin is probably enmeshed in your adult Ego State. Have you learned to manipulate yourself to get the things you actually want to do ‘done’? Are you doing trying to get things done so you might get to the point where ‘you have nothing to do’ and can ‘relax’? As human beings we so creative in the ways we keep ourselves in survival instead of living.
Phase 1 of Adulthood begins where you are after your childhood, approximately at 18 years of age. (If you have been unschooled, this age can be as early as 16. Public schooling often blocks and distracts children from their potentials and their Path to a serious degree.)
Phase 1 of Adulthood begins with assessing to what degree you have formed your Survival Strategy around making your abuse normal.
If you make your abuse normal, then even when the abusers (or the abusive circumstances) are no longer present in your life, you do not feel 'normal' unless you continue to abuse yourself. You scream at yourself internally, judge yourself, criticize yourself, blame yourself, disempower yourself, even have 'accidents' such as crashing your bicycle, falling off a ladder, losing all your money, or continuously choosing abusive people as your partners. You have developed the skill of being able to walk into a party or conference where a mix of perhaps one-hundred people are milling about, and with a few seconds scan you find the person you (your Gremlin and Box...) are most 'attracted' to, because this is the person best suited to keep things the same for you by fulfilling the role of your abuser, or the one you can abuse as a way of abusing your own soul.
If you have not made your abuse normal, then as soon as you escape from your abusive circumstances, you bounce back to self-respect and self-care, completely releasing your abusers from your world. An indicator that you have released your abusers is that you are in a healthy evolving intimate relationship. As you can guess by looking around... not many people completely release their abusers. They are still using them.
Phase 1 of Adulthood begins with taking basic care of yourself.
Until you are able to take basic care of yourself, there is no chance for you to begin Phase 2 of Adulthood. Taking basic care of yourself includes:
Giving yourself rest, water, and good food.
Being able to maintain your personal physical space.
Keeping others out of your Space (ending enmeshment).
Not being Adaptive... not making that automatic smile.
Taking your Center back from external authorities. In other words, reclaiming your own Authority.
If you are NOT ongoingly helping yourself - if you are NOT in Free And Natural Adult well-being - you will not be able to help others. This seems less like a rule to us, and more like a law of physics. Gravity does not just go away. Time does not stop.
If you pretend as if you are doing Phase 1 things but you are only thinking about doing them (reading and understanding the Experiments but not actually writing the notes into your Beep! Book) - if you enact a role of 'being someone who can take care of yourself and navigate Transformational Space', but you actually cannot - then the deep healing and initiation work of Phase 2 Adulthood (for example, preparing yourself to jack-in to your Archetypal Lineage) will fail, because you yourself are not actually 'there'. You are putting on a show. You are not authentically Present as yourself.
More evolutionary Pathwalkers than one might imagine wonder why evolution is not working for them... How long will you keep pretending instead of getting real and starting over where you are?
If this is the case for you, the cause may be quite simple: You were not there.
You let the Child or Gremlin, Parent or Demon Ego States stay in control of your Adult Ego State. These contaminating Ego States work well as a Survival Strategy to keep things the same, but they interfere voraciously when your wish is to engage in an evolutionary Path. The invasive Ego States will not let changes actually happen because their job is to 'protect you by keeping things the same'. They are 'only doing their job'.
If you discover this has happened for you, there is nothing else but to start over from zero with a new set of internal and external Distinctions (Upgraded Thoughtware) about Transforming your Gremlin and Decontaminating your Adult Ego State, and possibly shifting to a new Team.
Starting Over can work, but the chances are enhanced by arranging to be on a Team with some skilled Possibilitators. As a consolation, it can help to recognize that any authentic Matrix that you previously built remains to support your further development. Whatever is real cannot burn.
Once Phase 1 of Adulthood has been accomplished, E.C.C.O. (Earth Coincidence Control Office) senses it directly. E.C.C.O. will start putting new kinds of jobs and challenges on your bench. This is the signal to start engaging Phase 2 Adulthood Practices.
STANDING WITH YOUR BACK TOWARDS THE DOOR
A condition which sometimes arises for Pathwalkers is that you may have actually gained the skills and made the Healing and Initiatory changes that together accomplish Phase 1 of Adulthood, BUT, you have stayed there a little too long and crystallized Phase 1 practices into habit. You made the conclusion that, "This is Adulthood."
Here you are, standing at the Doorway to Phase 2 Adulthood, with your back towards the Doorway. You are facing the opposite direction and do not even know that the Doorway is there, directly behind your back.
You think you have achieved Adulthood because when you feel angry, you make boundaries! You express your feelings. You say what you want. You can say, "Stop!" and "No!" You can Hold Space with your Center, Grounding Cord, and Bubble. And yes, you have achieved Adulthood... Phase 1 Adulthood.
Phase 2 Adulthood is an entirely different universe.
You cannot enter Phase 2 Adulthood before accomplishing Phase 1 Adulthood, BUT... the transition from Phase 1 Adulthood to Phase 2 Adulthood is not automatic. You will need to turn around and face the opposite direction that you are accustomed to and familiar with and feeling so good about facing.
Not only that, but you will need to let go of Phase 1 Adulthood in order to enter Phase 2 Adulthood. It is a scary and groundless Flux Point, but it need not take very long. If you can recognize the habits you have taken on in Phase 1 Adulthood and make them conditional rather than automatic and habitual, then you gain the choice of being able to let them go and use entirely new Possibilitator Skills - Phase 2 Adulthood Possibilitator Skills.